Shakespearean Love

Shakespeare’s tragic love stories didn’t dress up love in roses. He treated love with a seriousness we often shy away from—messy, dangerous, transformative, and sometimes absurd. That’s why centuries later, we still see ourselves in his stories. He didn’t write love as fantasy. He wrote it as it is: contradictory, fragile, and fierce.

But then why does it feel like every great love story ends in death? Were Romeo and Juliet doomed from the start? Couldn’t they have fought harder, endured, found a way? Maybe. But Shakespeare makes their demise feel inevitable because their love wasn’t just affection. It was rebellion. It was defiance. It was lust, destiny, and devotion tangled together.

Their love itself wasn’t the failure though. What destroyed them was everything around it—family feuds, pride, society’s rigidity. Shakespeare understood something we still struggle with: love may be pure, but people, society, and circumstance corrode it.

Look at Othello. He didn’t stumble into jealousy on his own. The seed was planted. Iago, with all his venom and cunning, represents the voice of society—the envious whispers, the jealous eyes, the forces that can’t stand to see love in its truest, most powerful form. Left to himself, Othello might never have believed Desdemona capable of betrayal. But once society’s hand reached into that sacred bond, twisting love into doubt, the poison spread too fast to stop.

Isn’t that what so many of Shakespeare’s tragic loves are really about? Romeo and Juliet undone by feuding families. Desdemona and Othello undone by Iago’s schemes. Love itself isn’t the flaw, it’s the world around it, with its pride, politics, and envy, that refuses to let love simply exist.

And this isn’t just a lesson for the 16th century. We still have our Iagos. They show up as gossip, as cultural expectations, as voices telling us who we should or shouldn’t love. The methods are different, but the effect is the same: outside forces planting seeds of doubt where trust should live.

That’s the caution Shakespeare leaves us with: it isn’t enough for love to be strong within two hearts. It must also be guarded fiercely against the noise of the world. Without that vigilance, even the most genuine love risks being undone, not by what’s inside it, but by everything trying to tear it apart.

How?

This is where the sacredness of love comes in. True love, the kind Shakespeare wrote as life and death, is not casual. It carries responsibility. If you are given the gift of such a bond, you don’t squander it on ego, lust, or convenience. You honor it as something rare, something that transcends lifetimes.

Shakespeare revered too much to take it lightly. He wrote its danger because he believed in its power. And maybe that’s the real question for us today: in a world that treats love as fleeting, are we still willing to carry it as something sacred?

And maybe that’s what he was showing us all along: love doesn’t always live in two people holding hands forever. That kind of love can break under pressure, or even die with them. But love itself outlives the lovers. It lingers as memory, transformation, legacy. Love endures, not always in the way we want, but in ways that ripple outward, changing everything it touches.

To Be, Or not to Be

To summarize Shakespeare’s famous soliloquy…

“To be or not to be” dives into the ultimate question: should we keep dragging ourselves through life’s mess, or just tap out? Hamlet wonders if it’s better to face life’s endless chaos or take “the easy way out.” But then, what if the afterlife is just as bad—or worse? That dreaded “what if” holds him (and let’s be honest, probably all of us) in place, too uncertain to make any decisions. So, we stick around, tolerating the absurdity, clinging to the hope that one day, maybe things will be different. Fun times.

As for me, each time I moved countries, a version of myself was left behind— a mini existential crisis with a side of evolution. When I left India for Egypt, it was the end of one phase and the start of another. I was a fresh college grad, ready to conquer the world. By the time I reached the UK, I was searching for meaning. When I left London, I was craving stability, which led me to Australia. Life, however, had other plans (read: I’m now in Canada). Now, the Australian me is just another ghost of my past, and here I am, striving for some semblance of establishment. Call it my own personal To Be > Not To Be > To Be… saga, with every new start requiring a part of me to “die.” Every leap forward requiring a tiny internal funeral.

Afterall, death is inevitable—whether it’s the literal kind or just saying goodbye to a former self. Of course, this transformation doesn’t always require a passport stamp. Life’s got plenty of curveballs lined up no matter where you are. At first, change is scary, full of resistance (and maybe a bit of bargaining). We resist it at first because, well, the unknown is basically a horror movie in our heads. This is what Hamlet feared most—the great unknown, that keeps us in limbo. But when I chose “not to be” my old self, and took that plunge, I faced the unfamiliar. Only then could the new me “be” once again, stronger and a little wiser after each leap.

Well, guess what? In the end, Hamlet does die—but not by his own hand. He spends a good chunk of time contemplating an exit strategy, only to be killed in a final act of revenge. The irony? Fate, not Hamlet, decides his end in a bloody duel. All that existential dread, and life takes the choice right out of his hands.

And that’s life: whether we like it or not, it’s happening, and yes, maybe it’s all serendipitous. Whether we willingly let go parts of ourselves or not, life inevitably steps in and does some editing. Sometimes, a catalyst nudges us toward surrender; other times, tragedy pushes us headlong. Either way, I’m learning to lean into it—because if life’s going to decide whether I should be or not be, I might as well sit back and savor the excruciating beauty called growth.

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